How can I help my husband get over his heart ache?

Your children eating the appetizers and spilling the seafood sauce is just an excuse to stop seeing you, there are other reasons. Is it possible that your children are unruly in their home and out of control? Children like that are difficult to have around, I know first hand, two of my grandchildren are that way. If that isn't the reason you should make an effort to find out what exactly is going on for your husband's sake. It's hard to be open and honest if you're face to face with someone, but make an effort with his sister and tell her how upset your husband and what can you do to "fix" the problem. Good Luck.